I have over a dozen blogs worldwide but the Banana Smoothie blog is my most personal. One of my favorite entries to write, was in response to an emailer “kato”. He wanted a third party opinion about an embarrassing work incident. He had become the object of office ridicule, when it became public, that he was a very indulgent party goer (no criminal behaviour). I left a couple of descriptive items out and his real name, just in case someone at the office is a HapytamyNYC reader. You would be surprised!
Dear “Kato”,
Late last year, the doctor informed me that I had an “irregular mass” in my breast. A few weeks later they asked me to make a decision on how I wanted to pursue breast cancer treatment.
At first, I was in denial then fear swept over me, then I began to think about my life. My twenties were about romance, adventure and too much of everything. Too much partying, too much sex and too many embarrassing moments to live down.
The twenty something years of overindulgence were replaced with a workaholic lifestyle. Ninty hour work weeks and travel to places that became a vague memory. No romance and very little sex.
I realized in my 30’s, life needed to be a healthier mixture. Loving relationships, work and play. Then the breast cancer scare entered my life. Looking back, the regrets were few, too much work and not enough love. I wish I had been nicer to the people who deserved it and braver when it came to the pursuit of my dreams. I did not regret drinking from the cup of life and neither should you.
“Kato”, my sister shared a great quote with me, “THE PEOPLE THAT MIND DON’T MATTER, THE PEOPLE THAT MATTER DON’T MIND”.
Happily, the lumps that appeared in the first xrays disappeared in the last. I am fine and happier for the realization that I had finally, been diagnosed with a case of what really matters. Love and balance.
Follow your bliss, “Kato” and realize what really matters in your life. It’s never too late to apologize to anyone you may have hurt and to take steps to mend the fences and your reputation. If someone at work hasn’t taken you aside to inquire if you need help or a friend, you might want to start looking for a more welcoming environment.
Lots of love – hapytamyNYC
Originally published in the
hapytamynyc.wordpress.com blog (no longer updated)
copyright 2006
