“Love is the only true tangible.”-hapytamyNYC
At first it was awful. It was the first time anyone ever broke up with me. I had been through breakups before but this time it was a very different experience. Instead of relief and sadness to be out of a bad relationship, there was overwhelming grief. It is easier to look back now to examine what was learned, feeling anything but philosophical at the time. I burst into tears at the worst times. Once or twice running out of business meetings sobbing uncontrollably. The hair was disheveled, the office unorganized and important tasks sat. The pain was suffocated in comfort food and sleeping became the new obsession. After weeks of this, I decided to get myself under control. By the time, I came to my senses, I had gained 15lbs. and my life was a disorganized disaster from weeks of being neglected. I committed myself to exercising every day even if it was walking for a half an hour. I “spring cleaned” my office, organized every file and peice of paper and swept through every closet. I also took care of the tasks that had been left to the magical break up elves. It was painful and humiliating going through those tasks and it took 16 hour days to get everything back into it’s place. I’m back on the dating scene and that pretty much goes from stinky to ok. I’ve met alot of nice people and a few I’d rather have not met. I’m not in a hurry to plunge into a committed relationship but dating has been a welcome relief. I had been in my former relationship long enough to consider marriage but now that is on the back burner. Not being anxious about marriage has left me feeling more free. I’m not desperate and am often more amused by my dates shortcomings than angry. I can walk away from a bad date calm. I don’t worry why he didn’t call. I’m just glad I have good relationships in my life. Fantastic, funny and supportive friends and family. I learned to always heed the red flags and that uncomfortable feeling in your tummy. I realized that I never needed a man to make me feel I had achieved self-actualization or to make me whole. I already was! copyright 2006 |
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About Breaking Up by HapytamyNYC October 16, 2006
Happy To Have Wings by HapytamyNYC October 16, 2006
Happy To Have Wings
The last couple of years have been crazy and sad. My friends started calling me “Dark Cloud Woman” because if it was bad luck or tragedy, it would strike me. From fire, facing death and illness, to the loss of loved ones and property, accidents and curses, it has been an upsetting ride.
It taught me that all moments in life are temporary. Bad and good times come and go, and we are left behind to figure out what it means. It also taught me, what was really important for my life. A healthy mixture of work, play, love and gratefullness. I’m grateful for the chance to become a better and nicer person and grateful for the wonder in my life. I’m happy to have wings again and I hope you never lose yours.
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“Love is the only true tangible.” – hapytamyNYC
Orangy-Banana Smoothie October 9, 2006
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| 1 cup BREAKSTONE’S or KNUDSEN Low Fat Cottage Cheese1/2 cup milk1 medium banana, peeled, cut into chunks3 Tbsp. orange marmalade
1 cup ice cubes |
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| PLACE all ingredients in blender container; cover. Blend until smooth. |
The New Banana Smoothie Blog by HapytamyNYC October 9, 2006
Hello, I’m HapytamyNYC. Welcome to my blog. I’m a freelance writer from New York City. Why am I so happy? Well, I survived a breast cancer scare, a fire, a nasty breakup, the death of a couple of loved ones and other sorts of mayhem over the last year and half!What could have been a devastating time for me, has been a year of ephiphany.
I realize what is important in life. A very healthy mixture of work, play, loving relationships and of course, a great banana smoothie. It is easier said then done. I struggle to balance a busy corporate life and life of a freelance writer/novelist and loving human being.
I love to read what makes people happy and their thoughts on life. I want to know how people pulled themselves out of dark times and triumphed. Feel free to leave a friendly comment, ask questions, get advice or leave your favorite banana smoothie recipe!
Much happiness,
HapytamyNYC
*Due to technical difficulties, I am unable to update the Banana Smoothie Blog on the hapytamynyc.wordpress.com address. So, I am transferring some of the articles from the old blog here and adding new entries. Thank you for your kind emails and your patience during this transition.
